Friday, August 29, 2008

We Made It – Shadow Lane Party Report

It has been a very hectic past 2 weeks getting our vanilla lives in order. We wanted to enjoy Shadow Lane’s spanking party this weekend without anything hanging over our heads. G was more successful in this than I was. Work for me always seems to take over my life, even when I try to go on vacation. But that’s for another time and another blog post. Suffice to say, we walked out the door and got on the road (we drove) at 11:45am yesterday (a bit later than we first anticipated).

The ride was uneventful until half way through when the car decided to overheat. The thermometer read 117 degrees outside and the care apparently had had enough. We pulled off to the side of the road in the middle of nowhere and let it cool down for a while. We got back on the road but were now running without air conditioning, but the car seemed to be ok now. We made it the rest of the way without incident and checked into our beautiful suite around 7pm. We were exhausted and decided to order room service for dinner.

We have two couches in the suite and G decided it was time to christen one of them with an OTK warm up. How great was it to not have to worry about what the neighbors might hear! Because they probably are doing the same exact thing!

It took me awhile to unpack (G to insert sarcastic comment here on how I overpack for everything) After food hit my stomach, that was it. My brain shut down. We were invited to attend a party at Todd and Suzy’s, but I would have made a really bad impression as fell asleep in a corner somewhere. So I opted to go to bed.

Woke up this morning feeling good. Going now to meet Sandy for breakfast and pedicures afterwards. Can’t wait to get the party started!

More later…

Friday, August 22, 2008

Left Cheek Friday

Started a new "tradition" today: Left Cheek Friday. Seems to be working well so far, except I'm convinced D's right cheek is a little jealous.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

The Stick is just as mighty as the Carrot

Fellow blogger, Hermione (Hermione’s Heart) had a great post Sunday; “The Carrot or the Stick.” It questioned if a reward for a goal achieved is a better motivator than discipline for failure. A very good question indeed.

My comment regarding this topic was:

I love receiving a reward for good deeds accomplished.

But, I am finding my motivation is just as intense (if not more so) that if I don't accomplished said task, that a discipline spanking is in my future.

I think the HOH is the key in this. They must, and have to be able to successfully differentiate a discipline spanking from one that is considered a reward. Otherwise, it can be very confusing and the whole point of the process is lost.

Little did I know later that day I would put this very theory to the test.

One of my first real disciplinary spankings was regarding driving and speeding (The Welcome Home). Yesterday I received a speeding ticket. I was not looking forward to facing G.

I thought about the post and the comment I made. Did that first disciplinary spanking do any good being I just did the same thing and now got caught? Would another spanking just be wasted?

As we all in the DD community have pondered (and from what I see, pretty much agree on) each DD couple makes it up as they go along and does what it right for their relationship. As G and I discussed the situation and the possible outcomes, we came to the conclusion that consistency is the key if this is going to work. He said (and I agreed) that if he didn’t discipline me, deep down I would be disappointed and not respect him as the HOH.

We took care of it then and there. He had me completely undress and lie face down on the bed. I was naked… vulnerable. He had a tone in his voice that meant business. He told me to be still and I was to receive 20. I was in tears from the pain after only 10. This was absolutely the hardest spanking I have ever received and came very close to using my safe word. Sex was the FURTHEST thing from my mind. (The only reason why I interject this is to emphasize that G indeed knows how to successfully differentiate a disciplinary spanking from a fun/play spanking.)

This morning I woke up still feeling the sting, both physically and mentally. I am glad that G went through with it. I do have more respect and love for him by that act of discipline.

So… the carrot or the stick? Can’t we have both?

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

It's Showtime Folks!

From the Showtime series "Weeds"
All I have to say is that I'm watching this show from now on!

Monday, August 11, 2008

Social Networking – Spanko Style

I still find it pretty incredible that I could write down a few words, post them to this blog and then someone half-way around the world can read those very words almost instantaneously.

Blogging is just one of many ways of communicating and networking these days. Another social networking craze is called Twitter.

What is Twitter you ask knowingly? This is from their home page:

Twitter is a service for friends, family, and co–workers to communicate and stay connected through the exchange of quick, frequent answers to one simple question: What are you doing?

You are limited to only 140 characters per tweet, so the info being passed is short and sweet.

I have a Twitter account for my vanilla side and I am finding very useful, staying current with news stories, industry trends, etc. As well as staying in touch with friends.

So I thought, why not create an account for my spanko side? If you would like to follow me, just look up my my Twitter username: SpankMe. I will be twittering my daily spanko adventures with G and spanko topics in general. I will also be tweeting “blow by blow” from the Shadow Lane party.

If you haven’t tried it, I highly suggest a test drive. It’s very easy to set up an account, tons of fun and best of all it’s Free!

Side Note - You can download a desktop app so you don’t have to keep on going to the website to look at or update tweets. I recommend Tweetdeck or Digsby. If you have an iPhone, you can download the app – Twitterrific from the iTunes App Store.

Friday, August 8, 2008

Training and Conditioning for Shadow Lane

Yes, D and I will be attending this month's Shadow Lane party in Las Vegas. We're very excited to be attending our first time.

From everything I've read, there's LOTS of spanking at the party. (D'oh!) So, having given that some considerable thought, it seems to me that we should be preparing ourselves as best we can for the festivities.

On one level, of course, this means thinking about what clothes to bring (I'll leave that up to D), and what implements to bring (I shall handle that).

But, on another level, it's probably not a bad idea to get ready on a physical level for the party. Having read several post-party reports from previous attendees, it's clear that many of the bottoms are spanked several times each day.

So, to help D be ready for all of this, I'm going to have to start a training regimen immediately. With only three weeks to go, the plan looks like this:

Week One

Spankings three times a day, every other day, mostly OTK with my hand, but with the occasional implement as well.

Week Two

Spankings five or six times a day, five days a week, with a full compliment of hand / implements, ranging from the Bloomie (a wooden spoon we bought at Bloomingdales) to the nasty paddle we got from The Crypt, and not neglecting the belt and strap. (I don't use a cane.)

Week Three

Six or seven spankings daily, ranging from light to OMG owie!!! in all positions -- over my knee, bent over the bed, on the bed with a pillow underneath, etc.

Not having attended before, I can only guestimate the proper conditioning program so I'm hopeful this will fully prepare both D and I (after all, my hand is an instrument that must be properly conditioned as well) for the event.

We should be ready, just in time, to enjoy the party, don't you think???

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Thinking A Whole New Way

We live a wonderfully diverse neighborhood and are surrounded by Mom & Pop coffee shops, organic food markets, bondage shops, etc. which are easily accessible by walking or by biking. One of my favorite activities in is riding our utility bike to the farmer’s market every Sunday.

I had finished shopping and loaded up my bike with flowers, fresh baked bread and vegetables and headed on home. When I realized something was missing.

When I first started bicycling, G showed me the ropes (he’s been at this sport for years). One of the first things he taught me was “ALWAYS wear your helmet!”

So, when I came to the realization that the thing that was missing was my helmet, the first thought to go through my head was, “Oh shit! I forgot to put on my helmet, I’ll get a spanking for sure!”

I quickly pulled over to the side of the road and put on my helmet.

Before G was in my life, the first thought would have been, “I forgot to put on my helmet… Oh well.” And I would have rode home the rest of the way without it.

I find it fascinating how being in a DD relationship, my thought processes are being modified to react to things much differently than I would have in the past. And in my humble opinion, for the better.

Side Note 1) The photo above is of a pair of silver rings I purchased for G and I at the Farmer’s market. The artist creates jewelry from old typewriter keys and parts. These particular keys were from a 1920’s Remington typewriter.

Side Note 2) My apologies for using a bit of “colorful” language. I do tend to have a potty mouth and yes, G is attempting to correct this nasty habit as well.

Monday, August 4, 2008

Spanking Haiku

She stands before me
A naughty pleated plaid skirt
Her eyes avoiding mine.

Wordlessly I take
Her hand in mine, leading her
To the candlelit bedroom.

I guide her to lean
Over the bed, arms stretched out...

Her skirt is lifted
Revealing flowered panties
She squirms on her toes.

I whisper softly
"Are you ready?" and she melts
Her bottom clenches.

The first spanks are sharp
but playful; she kicks one foot
Wiggling with pain and pleasure.

Soon, I reach under
The waistband of her panties
She protests quickly!

Lowered so slowly
She sighs in futility
Moaning in sweet surrender.

Her bottom pinkens
As I spank from cheek to cheek
My bare hand stinging.

She stops resisting
And we become one person
Spanker and Spankee.

The sublime pleasure
The exquisite, focused pain
Blending into one.

Afterwards, I hold
Her close, stroking her soft hair
Affirming our love.

Saturday, August 2, 2008

New Implement!

I've discovered a great new implement -- our cable TV remote! It's handy, curved on the back so it fits a bottom perfectly, lightweight, and can be kept in plain view!

D grumbles when I pick up the remote, but I think she loves it as much as me.

What unusual "implements" do you use?